Short Videos on Business Achievement & Success

Several of my videos on business growth and achieving success have been posted on the World New and Report web site.

This is one place where you can view key videos. The videos and what we cover are listed below. As you can see all are less than 11 minutes (because I know how busy you are.)

Here is the link

  • Behavior of Successful Business Owners 6:54
  • 7 Secrets to Overcoming Adversity in Business…10:54
  • Anatomy of a Sales Call…6:38
  • How to Grow Sales…9:49
  • What Business Owners Can Do To Grow Their Business…9:56
  • Hey! It is all about taking action…6:57
  • Why Intelligent Self-Interest is Critical to Your Success…5:28
  • Nine Principles for Inspired Action: A New & Targeted Perspective…5:50
  • Only a few ideas…3:39
  • Ownership and Empowerment…2:55
  • Measurable, Repeatable, Predictable…3:12
  • Persistence…3:29
  • Free and inexpensive marketing secrets that works – part 1…9:40
  • It is all about results

Revenue and Profit Enhancement Specialist
Ron Finklestein

It is all about results and only results!

I have been running advisory board for several years now and I have been asked why I offer a 100% return on your investment guarantee to the board members.

The answer is simple: we get results.

Let me share with you a case study.

I had a company owner join The Entrepreneur’s Advisory Board because he wasn’t closing any sales. Here are the three steps we took to help him:

1.His advisors had him create a presentation of 30 minutes he would take all his prospects through. This accomplished three things for him:

a.It slowed him down. He knew his product so well that his prospects could not keep up with him. This caused several problems for him.

b.We reviewed the presentation and his delivery for clarity and focus and made recommendation for improvement. During the presentation we had him include specific questions to get the prospect involved.

c.We changed the focus of the sales presentation from “look how great we are” to “here is what is in it for you” when you work with us.

As a result of that approach three things happened:

1.He started to understand his prospects differently. Objections started coming up that he had not heard before. We started to address each objection in turn and craft specific remedies to help the prospect understand better.

2.We saved him a lot of money in marketing because there was no need to leave behind marketing collateral. His prospects understood the product and process and what was in it for them when they worked together.

3.He realized he was selling into the wrong markets

He kept changing his presentation as he learned about his customers and addressed the objections in his presentation.
He changed his market from manufacturers to professional services firms and he determined the major hurtle that prevented his clients from moving forward with him and addressed this right up front in his sales presentation (they were concerned about the amount of time it would take.) He assured them it would take just a few hours and not the weeks of they thought they would need. He backed it up with a guarantee: if it took more time than planned he would reduce his price 10%.
After a lot of hard work his backlog grew to 10 good opportunities. He closed his first big opportunity recently that he expects will put 100K in his pocket over the next 12 months.
It was really fun for his group of advisory to watch the stress leave his body, see the smile come back to his face and watch work be fun again.

Not bad for six months of work.

Do all my clients get these results? Of course not. Not all clients are as coachable. Not all clients will work as hard and not all client will change their behavior when something is not working. He did everything that was asked to do.
Over the course of the next few weeks I will be posting more studies. I do not what you to think this was an accident or a onetime event. It was not.

Call me if you want to see how The Entrepreneur’s Advisory Board can help your business. If you are a business coach or a business consultant and you want to offer an advisory board service to your client please let me know.

Your Professional Business Coach
Ron Finklestein

Do Others Know the Answer to This Question “What Do You Do?”

When I meet with someone the meeting typically started with this question: What do you do? The answer was always: I am a financial planner, I am an accountant, I am a business coach, etc. I always found this to be an inadequate answer because it does not tell me anything.

I change the question to “what outcomes do your customers experience in working with you?” and found even less could answer that question.

I change the question a third time and I now ask “why would I choose you from the hundreds or thousands of people who do what you do?” Still blank stares. I never thought these we tough questions nor did I think they should be tough questions but questions every sales and marketing professional should know the answers to.

I can to the realization that people confuse what they do with how they do it.

Let’s talk about how one man addressed this issue. I have written about Walt Disney before so let’s use him again as an example of a master marketer.

Walt Disney came from what some would consider to be an abusive household. This upbringing influenced his business life in a powerful and dynamic way.

If you were to ask Walt Disney what he did he would say something like this “we create family memories.”

I still remember, so many years ago, the first time I watched the wizard’s dual between Merlin and Mad Madam Min. If you have not seen this video please click on the link below and enjoy the next five minutes. It will be some of the best fun you will have all day.

He was the best at marketing. You realize this when you watch scenes from Bambi where you got to meet the rabbit named Thumper and the skunk named Flewer.

He taught the value of truthful communication in Pinocchio.

Or the value of persistence as Wort, as he was called, pulled the sword out of the stone.

I bet you have memories of your own from The Lion King or Finding Nemo or the hundreds of other movies the Disney Corporation created. You might remember a trip to Disneyworld or Epicot Center or maybe watching the Mickey Mouse Club as you grew up.

Disney made memories. He used his books and movies as tools of his trade but his company was build from the ground up to create memories. Some would suggest they were memories he wanted to have as he was growing up.

So the next time you meet with someone and they ask you what you do, think about the memory you make for your customers or clients and answer accordingly. If you do not know, then ask your customers. They can and will tell you. Use this knowledge to communicate with your prospects your marketing message.

Your Business Coach
Ron Finklestein

Dr. Phil or Napoleon Hill! (or just schizophrenic)

I am starting to get develop an identity crisis. My client’s have started calling me the Dr. Phil of business coaching because of the tough love and my no excuse approach to business coaching. 


I recently published my fourth book called Nine Principles to Inspired Action: A New & Targeted Perspective. A gentleman from New York read the book and called me up and he said “You are the new Napoleon Hill!” I was totally unprepared for his comments. 


I said: “Thank You. But want do you mean?” 


He started to going into details about my last book as he talked about how I took the materials in Think and Grow Rich to a whole new level. 


Needless to say, I am flattered. Who would not be flatter when being mentioned in the same sentence with Napoleon Hill and Dr. Phil. But let me be clear. I am only doing what I love: learning and sharing what I have learned. I do not what to confuse anyone, claim an identity that is not me or appear schizophrenic. I care deeply about my client’s success and I believe I need to stay ahead of them so I can continue to add value.  Some of the people who have impacted me the most, almost no one knows about. These are people who are my Business Mastery Advisory Board. Yes, I practice what I preach. Many of the concepts I write about hit my Advisory Board first, my client’s second and my blog third. 


The book Nine Principles for inspired Action took six years to research, test and write and it is the results of studying over 500 success small business owners (and many who were not successful). I chose small business because there has been much research done of very successful people but little that distills the behavior of the common man into action items that can be implemented immediately. The funny thing about this book is that it was never intended to be a book. I did this research for me and my clients, to help them and me be more successful. I want to continue to grow and prosper and get results. 


After I understood and distilled what I learned, I build several coaching programs to test drive these concepts. The results were powerful. So powerful that on one of my coaching programs I now offer a 100% guarantee. Simply put, if you do not recover the entire cost of the program I will refund the difference. I can do that because the clients who followed the process get results; those who did not follow the process do not get the results. All I did was formalize what they were already achieving in a measurable, repeatable and predictable way. 


My goal is to reach one million people with the concepts in this book. I am so passionate about this goal that I am giving away my methodology to any business coach, management consultant, small business owner or business executive that are looking for a way to get results, grow their business and generate more money. There is a catch though. You have to be trained in the process. The training is very affordably because I want interested parties to have some skin in the games so I know they are serious.


If you are someone who wants to achieve results, pick up the book. It is available on After you read the book, post your comments on Amazon so others can benefit from your efforts. I know some of the concepts in the book are controversial and will not be well received by some people. I am ok with that, because success, in today’s day and age requires us to think differently.


If you want to learn more about using my methodology in your business call me at 330-990-0788. I will answer any questions you have. 


Ron Finklestein

The Dr. Phil of Business Coaches or The Next Napoleon Hill, you choose




Shortening my Path to Success.

I recently completed an offsite with my Business Mastery Advisory Board. I think of this as shortening my path to success. 


We do these once a year with members who see the value in spending time working on their business to get ready for the next year, ask for help in clarifying issues that hold us back, solicit objective feedback on issues that are important to us and create deeper, more meaningful relationships. 


I am always reluctant to take 2 full days away, not including the prep time required, but after I attend one of these events, I see things so much clearer. I have 20 pages of notes and I recorded much of the weekend so others can listen to their working sessions. These recording are so powerful because we receive so much useful info it is impossible to take notes and capture everything. The recording allow us to review this info at a more leisurely pace so we can be total present and really hear what was said. 


These weekends are especially valuable because the people who attend typically play all out in providing feedback: the good, the bad, the ugly. All this is necessary to move forward in whatever our chosen endeavors.


I formed these Business Mastery Advisory Boards and participate in them because they are necessary. We are so close to ourselves that we cannot see our strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and possibilities with this feedback.


The principles that drive the Business Mastery Advisory Boards are documented in the book Nine Principles for Inspired Action: A New & Targeted Perspective. It is available on Since this book is just being released, my goal in attending the weekend retreat was to ask for help in how I can get these principles into the hands of over one million people. This is a big harry audacious goal I set because I have seen and experience the positive impact these principles had on me and my members of my boards. 


We spent almost two hours working on this and came up with 100 possible ideas. It is now my opportunity to filter through this content and figure out what will work. That is 100 more ideas then I had going into the weekend. If you do not think two hours is much time, try drinking from a fire hose; because that is what is was like. If you have not experienced six high powered thinkers, who see things differently, who are willing to share their knowledge for your benefit and success, with no hidden agenda, then you have missed something powerful. 


For the other members, we helped with strategy and business development issues, operational issues, family and life issues and launching a new business. Strategies were created, action items suggested, alliances formed, accountability partners created and results measured (we went back to last years’ accountability items to see what changed or was left unfinished). 


Because of privacy and confidential issues I will not share more. One of the rules is 100% confidentially. 


If you want to learn more about how a Business Mastery Advisory Board can help you grow, prosper and get results through purposeful action, give me a call.


Ron Finklestein



Goal Setting

Several of my associates are using to help them with their personal and business growth. Below is an unedited email from one of them. I thought I would share it because this training works and works well.    

I got a lot out of the “Goal Setting” section; took some notes that might encourage others to get into the material.  There’s some good stuff there! Paul Martinelli:

  • You have to use your imagination, not reasoning when setting goals.
  • the reason we set a goal is not to GET something, but to BECOME something.
  • Don’t set a goal on what I THINK I can do….it has to be OUTSIDE my comfort zone to inspire me….That’s where all growth takes place
  • Don’t base any goals on OUTSIDE circumstances
  • Give all my creative energy to the GOAL, not the plan!  The HOW will always show up; be flexible.
  • Ask myself, is this goal worthy of me: I’m trading my life for my goal, it must be worthy of me.
  • Ask myself: what do I really want??? Then take off the lid of reason, and tap into my imagination.

Bill Bartman:1. Make sure it’s MY goal, and not someone else’s2. Don’t call it a “Goal”….The average person misses their goals 70% of the time.   My mind just can’t “unknow” this!
Instead, call it a PROMISE to myself.   Most people keep their promises!!!   (I really like this one; it’s shifted some things for me, and I feel much more SURE of achieving my promises to myself!)
3. Clearly identify the PROMISE.4. Use all the tools around you: people, support, what motivates you..5. Create a “Promise Plan”:   

  • What it is I’m going to do
  • When am I going to do it
  • Where will I be when this happens
  • Why do I want this; what is my passion
  • Who; whose help do I need?
  • How am I going to do it?  I can’t know this from where I am right now!   I only have to know what I want to do, and why…the HOW will show up.

6. Review the plan and the promise regularly.  Focus on it for 20 minutes daily.   (If it’s that important to me, I’ll FIND 20 minutes)7. Pay attention to what I’m saying to myself…tell myself what I can do, who I am….not what I can’t do   (Manage my self talk)8. Tell other people my promises- have confidence to do that.  It increases the risk; yet most people want to help…  be able to articulate what I plan to do.9. Envision the results before hand.

10. Start- take inspired action.

If you want access to the same training please click here to learn more

To purposeful action

Ron Finklestein


500 Business Owners Have Spoken. They Told What They Did to Be Successful!

500 Business Owners Have Spoken. They Told What They Did to Be Successful! January 1, 2009 – Ron Finklestein, President of AKRIS INC, a Business Coaching and Consulting firm, and Robert Schepens, President of Champion Staffing, A Job Near and Drug Free Solutions NEO, have published a breakthrough book called

Nine Principles For Inspired Action: A New & Targeted Perspective.
This is great news for new, home based business owners and small business owners who are struggling to grow prosper and get result.  Ron Finklestein and Robert Schepens conducted research on nearly 500 successful business owners and discovered the Nine Principles that are being effectively implemented by those owners on a daily basis. They also discovered that many do not know they are doing it! They are only aware that they are getting the results they want.

“It is amazing how each individual really focused on their intelligent self-interest and how that intelligent self-interest drives not only their behavior but also the behaviors of their employees, customers and business associates.” said Finklestein. Available wherever readers buy books and online at for a cost of $14.95. ISBN 978-0-9760297-0-0 

Ron Finklestein is a small business success expert and has been doing business and technology coaching and consulting his entire career. In 2001, he devoted his full time efforts to AKRIS INC, a business and technology coaching and consulting firm. Since that time he has been involved with hundreds of small companies and helped them achieve success by teaching them the same principles documented in this book.
Robert Schepens is the owner of Champion Staffing, A Job Near and several other businesses. According to Robert: “We have discovered that owners of start-ups, established businesses and re-established businesses who achieve success have done so due to a clarity of focus in their visions. We believe we have found the fundamental principles that lead to increasing the odds of being successful, not just as a business owner, but as managers and people.”  Finklestein continues, “These principles are so powerful, we have created several products to drive these behaviors in our clients and we have been so successful in helping them achieve results that we now offer a 100% money back guarantee on our popular Business Mastery Advisory Board.” As a small business success expert, business and technology consultant, coach, speaker, and international author, Finklestein has written or coauthored three other books: The Platinum Rule for Small Business Mastery, 49 Marketing Secrets (THAT WORK) to Grow Sales and Celebrating Success! Fourteen Ways to Create a Successful Company.

Finklestein is available as a trainer, coach and consultant for your business needs. He can be reached at 330-990-0788 or  Finklestein is a lifelong resident of Akron, Ohio. Finklestein attended the University of Akron and Malone College. Robert Schepens is an entrepreneur, and former president of several business trade associations. His companies have achieved: ISO 9001:2000 Certification, multiple Weatherhead 100 Awards for Fastest Growing Privately Held Companies in Northeast Ohio, The First Staffing Service in Ohio to Achieve Level II Drug Free Workplace Certification by the Ohio BWC, multiple NorthCoast 99 “Best Companies to Work for in Northeast Ohio” Awards, Northeast Ohio Business Success Award and “Top 10 Most Dependable Staffing Firms in the Central USA” Award (Fortune Magazine 2008). He is the Host of “Entrepreneur to entrepreneur”, “Innovation Northeast Ohio” and “People Making A Difference in Northeast Ohio”, video channels on A Job Near which can also be found on You Tube and iTunes. Robert is a graduate of Valparaiso University, Christ College, and attended Fitzwilliam College, Cambridge University. For quantity purchases or how to implement these principles in your business please contact Ron Finklestein with any questions. Contact:
Ron Finklestein

Robert Schepens



How to Recession Proof Your Business

How to Recession Proof Your Business

What’s the common mistake most businesses make in a recession?    I believe business owners, especially new business owners, make nine fundamental mistakes, especially in a market downturn.

These nine common mistakes have been identified by interviewing hundreds of business owners: the good, the bad, and the ugly. The good ones do things right. The bad ones have never been taught to be business owners. It is something they learn as they go. These owners probably never planned to be a business owner but through circumstances, they find they are running their own business. Many never make the adjustment.

I took the best behaviors from the business owner I interviewed over the years and distilled them into nine specific behaviors. I compared them against my clients’ behaviors and the behaviors of other successful business people I met. I found them to be valid. I then introduced these behaviors in a coaching program that drives these specific behaviors.

When the economy gets bad, business owners lose all discipline and focus they had when they created a successful business. Instead of being more discipline they tend to go after everything. This is a problem because they dilute their already limited resources by trying to do too many things or being all things to all people. 

The key to success lies in how well you create an “attitude of success.” My studies have shown that there are nine behaviors that all successful people exhibit, especially in an economic downturn. When these behaviors are implemented in the highest levels of an organization and are combined with the correct attitude, they cascade down through the organization. Successful business owners understand that the organization they manage takes on the attitude of the top person in the organization, and they strive to ensure that their behaviors reflect this. To be successful you must implement these nine behaviors.

1. Become Selfishness – Get Clear on What is Important  When I say successful companies are selfish, I am not referring to the childish behavior of everything is “mine, mine, mine.” I am referring to a mature selfishness that allows them to make decisions based on the outcomes they want to experience.

Being selfish asks, “How do I protect my time, energy, and money so I am only spending them on those things that will take me closer to my goals?” This kind of selfishness allows them to make sure their precious resources are only being spent on activities that benefit their company. But, until they can define the types of customers they want to attract and the problems they solve for them, it is very hard to be selfish. They must get clear and stay focused on their strengths. All decisions must be based on being selfish with your time, energy and money. You must ask yourself “what is the best return for the investment?”

2. Stay Focused on What is Important. It is very hard for a company to be focused if you don’t know where you are going. The dictionary defines focus as “close or narrow attention; concentration.” Without a clear perspective, you cannot focus on the desired outcome. It is too easy to become distracted, unorganized, and inconsistent. When you understand what it is you are to be selfish about, you generate a clear focus—a sense of purpose. There are two questions you must always ask yourself. “Is what I am doing taking me closer to my goal (selfishness)? If not, why am I doing it?”

3. Be Disciplined by Creating Corporate Habits that Work Discipline is controlled behavior resulting from training and self-control. Your mind is made up. You have decided to achieve your marketing goals.

Being disciplined means you will not abandon your goals. Discipline has taught you that business life is not smooth and that there will be rough spots. Experience has taught you that by being disciplined, you can get through the tough spots. Your eye is on the target, and you have the discipline of a laser-guided missile; you seek out your objectives, and your focus never falters. Think of discipline as the creation of personal and corporate habits that you do over and over again, because they work.

4. Persistence – Stay the Course. Webster’s Dictionary defines persistence as the continuance of an effect after the cause is removed. Once you take the time to create a marketing strategy and implement a marketing plan, your goals will be clear. And when you are focused, disciplined, and selfish, your persistence allows you to see any unplanned obstacles not as problems, but as opportunities. After all, if it was easy, anyone could accomplish what you are accomplishing. But not everyone is on the field of battle with you. They see obstacles and stop. You see obstacles and opportunities.  You keep your eyes clearly fixed on your objectives; you try different things to overcome these obstacles. You know where you are going; you know you can’t be stopped. You know that your persistence is what drives you forward. You will find a way around any obstacle, and keep right on going. 

5. Ownership – It You Don’t Own It, You Can Not Change it.  Ownership is the state of being an owner. It is taking the legal right to the possession of a thing. Not only tangible things, but also your dreams, your goals, your business, and your life; if you do not take ownership for achieving your dreams, who will? You cannot blame the market or the economy for your problems. You must take ownership or you cannot take action to address the problem. Taking ownership is about change—making the change necessary to move forward, changing behaviors that are not working, and dealing with the world as it is and not as you want it to be. 

You own the outcome because you are clear about where you want to go, and you take ownership for it. With ownership, you know that if you are not getting your desired results, you can take action and change the outcome. Ownership is so very empowering. You know that if you do not have the skills, you can learn or hire someone to teach you. 

6. Measure Everything – Orientation toward Results. Results mean ending in a particular way. Once you define your goals—the outcomes you want to achieve—and how you want things to end, you can take ownership to create your desired outcomes. You can create the results. It is now a matter of implementing the behaviors that will drive those results.  When you don’t get the results you want, you fall back on persistence, ownership, focus, and discipline, and know that you have the skills, the drive, the desire, the knowledge, and the road map that will take you where you want to go. Results are simply a way of measuring your success. You either get the job done, or you don’t. If you don’t, because of your ownership, you go back and try something different. No excuses. No remorse. Only results. You understand that there is no trying; only doing. 

7.  Success is Dependent on Your People Effectiveness All successful people understand that their success comes with, and through, other people. Successful people recognize these individuals and appreciate them for their contribution to the results. Understand who your best customers are and treat them like gods. Determine who will help you (employees, referral partners, business associates, etc), why they will help you and how you can help them. 

8. Only the Right Ideas- Not All Idea are Created Equal Most people have an abundance of ideas and this is the problem. Once they get selfish by focusing on one specific goal, they can generate ideas that allow them to implement their intelligent self-interest. This will move them to new level, both personally and professionally. If they are not clear, the abundance of ideas will just get further off track. Getting selfish is very important here. It is also important to understand that ideas typically come from others.

9. Defining Success as Taking Action. Success, in the original sense of the word, simply means to take action. When in doubt, do something – anything. Successful people understand that they can always correct something that is not working. They also understand they cannot correct an action that is not taken.

Do not be confused by the outcome of success: new car, new house, more time off, money etc. These are outcomes of success. They are not success. Success, simply defined, is taking action. When you take action you can achieve the outcomes of success. 

Many time people have a great idea. They believe their idea will lead them to success but they have no idea how to move forward. Or, they have so many ideas that they cannot make up their mind. Successful people know they need people to help them implement their ideas.

About the  Author

Ronald Finklestein, President of AKRIS, INC, is a small business success expert, business coach, consultant, speaker, author, and trainer, and has published three books, 49 Marketing Secrets (THAT WORK) to Grow Sales (, Celebrating Success! Fourteen Ways to a Successful Company and The Platinum Rule to Small Business Mastery. Ron’s client have increase sales 35% year over year, experienced 150% return on investment, opened new markets and created new products that have transformed companies. Finklestein is available for coaching and consulting, speaking engagements, workshops, and seminars. You can contact him at or (330) 990-0788. Sign up for his newsletter at All the books mentioned above are available on   


Ron’s next book, Taking Inspired Action will be released in Jan 2009.


When is Intelligent Self-Interest Different From Enlightened Self-Interest

I received the following comment to the blog post I wrote on intelligent self-interest. I included the link for those of you who wanted to read (reread) it.

Here are the comments:

You seem to have taken the reverse side of the coin marked ‘Enlightened Self-Interest’ which encourages us to take up the burden of community involvement.

The reasons to exercise ‘enlightened self-interest’ include maintaining an environment (physical and social) that can be enjoyed. And in cocktail conversation it takes us inevitably to discussing whether there are pure ‘altruistic acts’. (I vote in favor, by the way).

So would you expand your blog to discuss where the balance lies? When are the times you (personally and specifically) say “yes” with less regard to intelligent self-interest and more toward enlightened self-interest?

Here is my response:

Thanks for a well thought out comment and excuse my delay in responding. I found your comment on Plaxo.

The premise behind this post is simply our intelligent self interest: The key being intelligent. There is no difference between intelligent self-interest and enlighten self-interest from my perspective. Both come from the same source: Our need to take care of our self. For some of us there is no intelligent in self-interest. At this point it is all about me. When the word intelligent in introduced it changes the meaning of self-interest.   

Let us look at the definition of Intelligent Self-interest:
The word intelligent, according to the web site, means a “faculty of understanding,” from L. intelligentia “understanding,” from intelligentem (nom. intelligens) “discerning,” prp. of intelligere “to understand, comprehend,” from inter- “between” + legere “choose, pick out, read.”

The work selfish comes from the word self.  Self, according to the same web site, means “one’s own person, same,” synonyms included self-seeking (1628), self-ended and self-ful.

The word interest comes from interresse “to concern, make a difference, be of importance,” Interesting meant “important” (1711)

If we put these definitions together we can see the intelligent self-interest simply means: intelligent – to understand, comprehend and chose, self means self-ended or for our own self and interest means “what’s important.” For our purposes let define intelligent self- interest as meaning that we understand, comprehend and chose what is important to us. In this definition we are to define what is important to us and chose how this is important to others.

When you remove the intelligence from self-interest you are also removing enlightenment. At that point you have only self-interest, which is essentially childish selfishness: It is mine and I want it now! 

I have new book I am finalizing that discusses this topic in real detail. It defines intelligent self-interest, the eight behaviors to implement intelligent self-interest and is loaded with examples of people who changed their life and their business using these concept. Let me know if you want a copy and I will email you when the book is ready. The title is Taking Inspired Action: Nine Secrets to Business Success.

I hope this answers your question.

To Your Continued Success

Ron Finklestein

Learning to Let Go

Learning to Let Go

I was listening to Jim Britt on conduct a short training video on The Power of Letting Go.

Britt talks about not about your going after what you want but what you become. He uses happiness as an example. He addresses the question: How do you become happy?
He suggests the unhappiness is a learned behavior and we can change this behavior by letting go. 

We must let go of the behaviors that are m aking us unhappy. This will allow up to replace them with behaviors that will allow us to be happy. 

He discusses four steps to letting go:

Intention – Create the Intention to let go

Willingness – Be willing to let go

Commitment – Make a commitment to let go

Self observation – Pay attention to your thoughts, language, and behaviors and ask yourself how your thoughts, language and behaviors are supporting your unhappiness.

For self observation he suggests letting go of the thoughts that bring unhappiness.

For self observation he suggests use language that supports what you want to achieve or become.

For self observation he suggests use behavior that supports what you want to become.

These three actions allow you to let go by letting you disconnect from the problem.

He concluded by saying a “Belief is not something that has latched on to us but something we have latched on to.”

The only thing I would like to add is that we must it would be easier if we define what kinds of actions, behaviors, thoughts and sentence we would like to speak so we can focus on what we want, not on what we don want.

To Your Continued Success,

Ron Finklestein